Irene & Robert

The person I met through CC is now my life partner! After my wife died, it was my loneliness that persuaded me to put up a profile, fearing that there would be no-one compatible living nearby, hoping that I would find someone who would meet at least some of my needs. After a friend suggested she should try CC, my now-partner put up her profile with the attitude “I’ve nothing to lose” but she was quite happy living an independent life.

We both feel that each other is ‘heaven-sent’ and that we fit together as a couple in mind, body and spirit. Having been together for nearly 4 months, we are still in a state of shock that God has been so good to us and are having to re-learn the meaning of undeserved grace!

I adopted a methodical approach, viewing the site for about 8 months before subscribing to see if there was anyone I would like to contact, then taking great care constructing my profile. Over the course of the next 6 months I met around half a dozen ladies, most just once. One, who lived not far away, I found interesting and wanted to get to know better. When she told me that she was going abroad and I couldn’t see her again for about 6 weeks I was disappointed and decided to scan the website again.

On the first page was someone in my town (only the second person in over a year) with photos of her having fun in the outdoors. I suggested that, even our relationship did not develop, we should get to know each other simply as fellow Christians in the town.

Unbeknown to me, my partner had recently met with friends who had used the site, suggesting she should try it. Being a happy, independent person with many new friends and a good job, initially she laughed it off but later thought that she may as well as there was nothing to lose. She wrote her profile in about half an hour and found the first photos she could of herself, posting on the Saturday night.

It was the following morning when I looked again at the site and contacted her! We met twice for coffee, always watching the clock as she had many commitments. How we describe what happened next is to say that “God broke my ankle on an overseas walking holiday!” When back in the country she was told to be non-load bearing and signed off work for two months. Living up 3 flights of stairs meant she was confined to her flat – I said, “I can make the tea”; “I can fetch that for you”, etc.

We got to know each other and, when she was able to be taken out for coffee, shared deep things about our past. We were ready to be vulnerable with each other and since then we have become a couple, feeling that our lives have been completely transformed. She didn’t know she needed me, but now says she wants to spend the rest of her life with me. I knew I needed someone but never expected someone so intelligent, lively and beautiful to look at me. She turned my mourning into dancing!

Our number one tip is to be honest on your profile and not to try to turn yourself into someone you think will be appealing. With what you write and the photos you choose, just be yourself.